And so we return to the issue of the punishment caning.
One day I let Jimmy and Shona know that I was going to spend a few hours working on my blog. They made all the right encouraging noises, and I settled at a desk to write.
Here are some of the things I did instead: read Twitter, read FandomWank, read LiveJournal, read some more Twitter while clicking every single link and checking out all the retweeted profiles, watch some Dreams of Spanking movies and read comments on all the scenes. You will notice that none of these activities have in any way involved any writing. When Jimmy finally asked me how the blogging was going, all I could say was, “Errr… FandomWank is great.”
“Would you like some help with that?” he asked. In our relationship this question has developed a new meaning: would you like to give me the authority to make you do this, under the threat of punishment?
Yes, I did.
Subsequently, Shona named the series of exchanges that followed “The Jimmy and Adele Show”. It had dialogues like:
Jimmy: “Put down the summary of all the paragraphs you’re going to write.”
Adele: “Can I finish reading this LiveJournal thread?”
Jimmy: “You can, after you’re done.”
and
Jimmy, from *another room*: “Your word processor looks very similar to your FireFox skin.”
Adele: “…”
Jimmy: “Go on, you can do it. Extend the first summary into a paragraph.”
Adele: “WHY DO YOU HATE FUN?”
The cajoling worked for a while, but the post I was writing – the stupidly long essay about the R v. Peacock trial – was a complex beast. I needed to find a selection of articles to link to, some choice tweets, some news items. I kept taking Twitter breaks; these kept getting longer. Finally Jimmy told me that I was to stay off Twitter until further notice.
I tried. I tried so hard, you may have seen steam of the effort coming out of my ears. When I succumbed to temptation in the end, it didn’t even feel very good. I was so ashamed that I barely skimmed a few tweets, and went back to writing straight away, but my heart was heavy with self-disappointment.
I wondered whether to tell him, or to wait until I was asked. I decided I would tell, but not right away, because by this time we’d broken off for dinner, and I didn’t want the entire evening to be about me. I told Shona though. She doesn’t have a punishment kink (as far as we know), but she’s been cheer-leading me through my efforts with the understanding of somebody who’d looked writing block in the face before. She offered me a hug and much sympathy, and it felt better not to carry my guilt around all on my own.
I made my confession the following morning, sick with shame. Jimmy was all sympathy, but sentenced me to a stroke per tweet I’d read, anyway. We’d been experimenting with discipline for several months by then, and he tends to save corporal punishment for a last resort. He’d used it only twice before. The fact that he saw it as necessary now very nearly brought me to tears: it was this, not the eventual caning, that felt like the lowest point of the entire episode.
This didn’t make the writing any easier; I ended up earning twenty-five strokes in total over the course of the day, but at least, eventually, the post was done. And then the caning was done, with me lying flat on the bed with a corner of a pillowcase between my teeth. It felt natural and okay: not a judgement on me as a person, not a pretext for either of us getting off; just a friendly favour, albeit a painful one.
And this was how I came back to being a spanking blogger.
Things the #ObscenityTrial have taught me: assume
a higher level of general ignorance & prejudice about BDSM
than I had previously thought. (@electronic_doll)
Browsing spanking forums, you sometimes come across the sentiment that these days the world at large is quite tolerant and accepting of alternative sexualities. While this statement is impossible to prove either right or wrong – have you ever tried asking “the world at large” its opinion? – From time to time we can’t fail but be reminded that we are not yet living in the fluffy sex-positive paradise of our Twitter and Fetlife feeds.
FACT: Some types of spanking and BDSM are still illegal in the UK, according to precedent set by R v Brown (“the Spanner case”). While it’s unlikely that the police will raid your David Copperfield-themed house party, they can, because in a sexual context consent is not a defence against a charge of assault causing actual bodily harm.
FACT: An escort and porn-maker Michael Peacock (known charmingly as Sleazy Michael) last week stood trial for producing DVDs that featured certain sex scenes between consenting adults. None of the acts were illegal to perform in private, but, according to the prosecution, they fell under the legal definition of obscene materials, so into the dock Mr Peacock went.
If you live in the UK and spend any time on Twitter, you already know what happened next: the jury of Mr Peacock’s peers spent several days watching footage of whipping, fisting, watersports and CBT, and then, after a deliberation lasting less time than a leisurely BDSM scene, returned the verdict of “not guilty”. But I’m also guessing that quite a few of you haven’t heard of this case, because it’s had quite modest coverage by mainstream news outlets – a footnote rather than any kind of core issue.
Most of the mainstream media commentary has come after the trial’s end. From my left-wing Twitter bubble, the pieces that have been the most visible are the ones that approve of the acquittal and question whether the Obscene Publications Act, 1959 – the law according to which the prosecution had been brought – is fit for purpose in this day and age, in New Statesman, the Guardian and Yahoo News.
It’s the last link that I’d like to bring to your attention, because of the comments you find under the article. After the lovely time the whole of Twitter had had bashing the prosecutors on the #obscenitytrial hashtag, you get quite a shock to the system learning that -
“When we make obscenity the norm we have hit rock bottom and there is only one way to go, do we realy want filth as an every day occurence, do we want our children to think it’s ok to swear fornicate and generaly live a degrading existance, soddam and gomoragh spring to mind” (Anonymous commenter, 32 likes and 8 dislikes at the time of writing);
and that -
“We are existing in a depraved and corrupted society. That said, it is of no surprise that levels of acceptability are in line with low-life corruption, depravity and pornography.” (Stewart, 8 likes, 1 dislike).
Now, reading comments on Yahoo is a special kind of self-torture, and a film of the process could stand a good chance to be prosecuted under the extreme porn legislation, but it doesn’t do anyone any good to try and think them out of existence. Your Twitter feed is not yet an indication of any sort of general consensus.
That said, there’s been some amusing things scrolling past me in the feeds:
Farcical #ObscenityTrial seeking to ban supposedly “depraving” videos involves, err, showing the videos to the jury. Will it deprave them? – @wallaceme
An excellent question, also frequently raised in relation to the UK censoring body BBFC: if certain material has the potential to “deprave and corrupt” the viewer, as per the obscenity legislation, do censors and juries become corrupt after watching a certain volume of obscene material, and do they therefore need regularly swapping out, like equipment damaged by wear and tear?
If it’s illegal to distribute DVDs of gay fisting #obscenitytrial I spy a gap in the market for live theatre shows. – @Andrew_Taylor
Pause as your narrator stops to fantasise about the possibilities.
Reading up on #ObscenityTrial and wishing I was a criminal law academic. Lack of BDSM cases in corporate finance law. – @lawvaughan
This made me smile with sympathy. Imagine my frustration, as a law post-grad, at needing to concentrate on the fair trial cases when in the very next chapter, in the privacy chapter, there was an amazing wealth of things I could read about the Spanner case.
And speaking of the Spanner case:
With the good result in #ObscenityTrial, is our culture now ready to reverse R v Brown? – @rebellionkid
A pertinent question, and one very much of interest to us in the spanking scene. It is, I think, telling that nobody was prosecuted for the acts in Peacock’s DVDs, even though to an uninformed observer they look comparable to the acts in Spanner. (Here, pumping the testicles with saline. There, nailing testicles to a board. From my non-testicle-wearing point of view, these are beasts from the same species, if not necessarily the same genus.) Don’t get too excited, though, because according to Myles Jackman aka @obscenitylawyer, quoted in “Solicitors Journal”, the Law Commission “wasn’t able to say whether it would undertake a review of sexual consent to assault laws”. And why would it, when it doesn’t have to? Imagine trying to sell that change in the law to the Daily Fail readers, without the iron-clad excuse of “the jury made us do it”.
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